Life is a name of give and take but some people are by nature takers just like some are givers.
The problem with takers is their selfishness. Such people are so felt focused that there is no room left for empathy. They can never be satisfied because no matter how much they take, they think of it as their right. They take advantages of other kind.
Their hearts are very narrow. It's not that they don't do good or never give but they lack compassion. There are always motives behind their acts of generosity. They also never forget what they do for others but rarely keep tabs on what others give them.
Their demanding nature is not very obvious as they are manipulators. They don't necessarily have a superiority complex. Many times they lack self confidence and their greed is based on an unending desire to be better by accumulating more and more.
They secretly compete with others and this competition is root cause of their unhappiness. They are jealous and envious of achievements of others. Their own achievements make them snobbish as they want to make others jealous of them, the same way they feel about others.
Their jealousy and competition are the driving forces behind their worldly successes if they work hard. The more they get, the more greedy they become. They use others as step stones to achieve their goals. They forget favors and take things for granted.
The givers are people who are more focused on others. They are exact opposite of takers. They drive joy in seeing others find happiness. They are facilitators. They work hard for others. They seem restless because they always strive for others but they have an inner peace. They may not appear happy as they get sad over tears of others, yet their souls are satisfied.
Givers, in general, suffer a lot. This suffering is based on kindness and good intentions. They are often misunderstood, misused and abused. People take advantage of them. Takers think of them as foolish because takers fail to understand their selfless natures.
Givers often get hurt by the selfishness of takers but they cannot stop themselves because their generous nature compels them to keep on giving. Experience and time are great teachers. Many wizen up, learn from their mistakes and find ways to stop takers from taking them for granted.
There's a majority of people who are both takes and givers under different circumstances, bringing a mix of various proportions and some balance in between.
Shamsa Anwar.
