I'm always surprised to hear people say not to form attachments in love.
True that love is all about letting go of self but that in itself is an attachment because one sacrifices for the beloved. Bonds are formed and expectations emerge in love.
Even the Creator has expectations from us. Our love attaches us to Him. We surrender our will to His will through this attachment and devotion. This surrender is not a one time thing. It needs a constant effort and renewal.
The most selfless love on earth is of a mother's and that too is based on attachment and expectations of fulfilling the duties of that title. A child's welfare is dependent on that attachment.
A parent's love and prayers are always needed and have special meaning and place in a person's life, regardless of age, due to the relationship between the person and the parent.
Relationships are attachments. Attachments give rise to expectations. There are expectations from each relationship, be it sibling, family or spouse.
Non legal relationships like friendships are also based on expectations of loyalty and sincerity. There are unsaid promises to honor and respect each other.
Love demands sacrifice from the ones in love but love itself has a huge ego as it does not tolerate insult and degradation of itself, or of the loved one. Love puts the lover on the pedestal and forgets about the rest. This is attachment. Devotion is attachment.
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