There are two kinds of people with control. The ones who are in control and then there are controlling people. Do not confuse them as one since both are very different sorts of people with entirely different mind sets. Controlling people want things done their way. They are the manipulators. They can be hypocrites too. They are usually selfish and self centered people. They rarely care about others and always control the ones in their lives. They like to dictate if in power, but can be puppet masters working behind the scenes as well. Whether explicit or implicit, their conduct revolves around making others bend to their wishes.
The people in control, on the other hand, are the ones who exert control over themselves and through that they are able to manage any situation. They can be compassionate leaders in power and contended quiet souls in general. Often times, this inner calm and contentment impress others who look up to them in awe. This awe leads to envy and jealousy at times. All they see is the control in such situations. They fail to see its source. The source is the inner contentment. Some are born with it but anyone can achieve it through practice. Religion and moral values preach this kind of control. The purpose of this control is not to have power over others but rather self restraint.
Self restraint is an exercise that needs routine and discipline to bear fruit. In an era where fruits are being quickly ripened by artificial means, majority fails to practice patience. They want instant results at all costs. People want peace and associate it with control but fail to realize that it is the self control and not the control over others that brings this peace. Patience needs to be learned, practiced and implemented for this purpose. And yes, I desire and want this kind of control!
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