It is so difficult to watch someone near and dear in pain and not be able to help. There are a million words and suggestions that can be doled out in the way of trying to offer help but it's all useless if the person going through the turmoil does not allow it as some people can be very stubborn in their quest to be emotionally strong.
There are many people who put up brave faces. They are extremely sensitive and caring people but they do not want to be vulnerable by showing their weaknesses to others. At first they think that they can solve their own problems. When this does not happen, they feel distressed as failures and take for granted that there are no solutions to their problems. To seek out help means to disclose their feelings and share the pain. They start bottling up their emotions and erecting walls to block others in order to hide their pain from their loved ones. The emotional built up over time leads to stress.
Stress has a subtle way of showing up if one looks for the signs. The family or friends who care, can detect the symptoms but the kind of people we are talking about, deny others the opportunity to help. By building up walls, they push people away from them. Sometimes, they might not even have someone who really cares but in cases where they do have others, they don't want to bother them. This isolation segregates them from their well wishers over time as friends and family eventually give up their futile efforts to help. The realization of isolation brings in depression which further pulls them emotionally down.
Sharing and talking help a lot in stress and depression. It is true that the other person might not be able to solve the problem but talking would lessen the burden. Two brains are always better than one. Always leave the doors open for true friends.
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